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As many who have met Auburn Goddess & Her Devious may know, Devious is an avid cross-dresser, but Auburn doesn’t actually get all that hot and bothered by a guy in a dress. Yet they’ve found ways to make cross-dressing a central part of their D/s dynamic and extremely exciting for both of them. How?

Through creativity, not compromise.

First, we’ll discuss the many different reasons why male submissives may desire (or despise!) cross-dressing, and the psychological and emotional impact of being dressed for each type of cross-dresser personality. We’ll then talk about ways to take control of each type of cross-dressing male to increase the power of the Dominant and keep things ever evolving and exciting for both of you.

Foot and body worship that touches upon the devotional is a uniquely erotic and connecting experience. It creates intimate and intense D/s space for both partners.  Devious will discuss the various types of body worship possible to pay homage to one's Dominant. When exactly does a foot or a part of someone's body become more than just a part of that person?  We'll cover why and how to give special attention to certain parts of the body, including creative ways to perform foot/body worship and make it more special for each of you. Auburn will share from a Dominant's perspective how to become more comfortable receiving worship, plus how to relax, sit back and enjoy the experience while remaining completely in control.

Unlock the secrets of your partners' communication style in your M/s or D/s relationship (and learn a bit about your own as well). Learn to decode the meanings below the surface of their words and begin to understand how to improve your communications, whether for service, protocol, power exchange or play. Based on the psychological theories of Dr. Clare W. Graves and extensive research into Spiral Dynamics, this workshop explores how our individual internal values affect the way we communicate, and how we interpret and react to the words of others.

We'll discuss five specific "colors of communication" with distinct personal values:

• Red - Power and action 
• Blue - Stability and order
• Orange - Goals and opportunity
• Green - Harmony and peace
• Yellow - Independence and exploration

As a Dominant or Master/Mistress, recognizing someone's value preferences can help you better understand how to effectively communicate to motivate, reward and inspire them to greater levels of service and submission. As a submissive or slave, realizing a Dominant's underlying values can help you better express yourself and react in a positive way to their unspoken values and priorities. We'll even talk about how the different colors of communication perceive each other's values. Learn how to best avoid the misunderstandings, conflict and confusion that can occur in any relationship... it's easier when you can unlock the secret code!

Both Auburn and Devious have vanilla situations, such as Auburn's career and Devious' biological family, that they choose to keep discreetly separate from their 24/7 Mistress/slave relationship. Thus, they've learned how to establish and maintain important, relationship-affirming protocols and rituals in vanilla settings as part of their M/s. In this interactive workshop they'll talk about how to identify and design key protocols that are meaningful to you that can be performed virtually anywhere, anytime, without raising a vanilla eyebrow.

Opening a door for your female Dominant, is it just chivalry, good manners or part of your protocol?  Do you really have to call your owner before buying that candy bar?  Protocols and rituals can take many forms and can be established for any kind of interaction - from vanilla settings to the dungeon, in person or long distance.  Come explore new ways to put protocols and ritual into your everyday routine. This workshop focuses on how to create and build your own personal protocols and rituals, looking into your relationship and history together for meaningful symbolism that will reinforce and reaffirm your own dynamic.

Delve with us into the fascinating world of sexual control as a Female Dominant, well beyond simple chastity. Auburn will discuss various elements of creating sexual control over a male submissive - mental, physical and spiritual - and how to incorporate and utilize sexual control in your D/s or M/s relationship. While some BDSM technique discussion will be included, this workshop focuses much more on the psychological and relationship aspects of controlling a male submissive sexually.

By popular demand from previous attendees, Auburn and Devious now offer a Part Two of their highly rated Five Styles of Dominance workshop. In this very interactive session, attendees learn in detail how to apply their knowledge of the Five Styles to many different aspects of relationships. From meeting and negotiating with a potential new partner, to addressing conflict and discord in a long-term M/s or D/s relationship, we'll cover how to get below the surface to truly understand the motivations and needs of both yourself and your partner(s). Most important of all, we'll delve deep into the unspoken needs that if unmet over time, can destroy a M/s or D/s relationship and lead to the relationship shattering phrase "You're just not Dominant(submissive) enough."

Topping is fun and enjoyable, but Dominance is full of complexities. So how exactly does one take a submissive underhand and lovingly guide them, if one has never done so before? How does one go about creating a lasting and exciting M/s or D/s relationship without asking your eager submissive/slave for (too many) hints and tips, and thus ruin the powerful aura of being a firm and confident Dominant who is comfortably in charge?  How do you take a new submissive with a BDSM checklist clutched in their hand and decide what to do next?

At some point in their kinky lives, everyone in the BDSM community has had to face a critical question: Who in their vanilla lives to tell about their alternative interests, whether to tell them a little or a lot, plus exactly when and how to tell them. One of the hardest conversations you might ever have could be telling a loved one, family member, spouse or partner about your secret interests - especially if you've hidden that side of yourself for years, perhaps even decades.

We believe that it's a very different experience to take a vanilla relationship and twist it by adding BDSM than it is to take a relationship that began Day One as D/s and begin to incorporate vanilla life and everyday demands into it. It's a delicate balancing act no matter who you are, but the challenges and issues are very different depending on where and how you began, even if you ultimately are trying to reach the same goal of a "24/7" M/s or D/s lifestyle. The same things that will seem very normal to two people who began their interaction "vanilla" can cause heartache, disappointment and disruption in the dynamic of two people who began together as Dominant and submissive (and certainly vice versa).